I was a young mom. My daughter was born when I was barely 18 years old, and I had so many lessons to learn about how to be a parent. One of those lessons was how to encourage a child to love being in nature. I grew up running around in the woods with my siblings; today our childhood experiences would probably be considered neglect by many people, but we loved it and I wanted my child to love being in nature, too. So, as soon as she was “old enough,” I packed her up and took her out for a hike. My goal: a secluded waterfall miles from the trailhead. Her goal? I don’t know; I didn’t stop to find out, but pushed to make it to the waterfall. She was miserable the whole way, and we never got there; she was exhausted and crying. My visions of a lovely picnic with my happy child playing in the mud next to a picturesque waterfall completely fell apart, and I was really sad. I could not understand why she didn’t love being outside the way I had at her age. Today, while she enjoys being outdoors sometimes, she has also told me that she is “pro indoors.” 

     I’ve learned so much about sharing nature with children since then. Together with some words of wisdom from our early childhood education team, Heidi Hoskins and Amy Nelson, I hope we can help you avoid making some common mistakes, and give you ideas for creating marvelous outdoor adventures with your family. 

A group of kids in front of a waterfall

Nine to twelve year olds at Baker Creek Falls. Younger kids can do this hike, but get too tired to make it fun.

  1. Forget your goals. The waterfall, lake, cave, or whatever other really great thing you want to get to will still be there when your child is old enough to enjoy a long hike. Think of your outings as open-ended adventures and allow spontaneity to guide you.
  2. Allow for many stops along the way. Your child is much more likely to love nature if they are allowed time to notice and appreciate it at their own pace. Engage with them about the things they notice, no matter how mundane it is to you. The world is new to them, and though you may have seen a thousand worms, slugs, and caterpillars already, they haven’t. Share in their excitement while doing your best to sound like it’s as exciting to you as it is to them.
  3. Periodically stop to share with them the things you enjoy as well. Teacher Amy says, “Children will value what their adults value. So start noticing nature more and talk with them about what you’re noticing. Listen to the birds, feel the wind, notice how the air smells.”
  4. A child stops to investigate a small snail on the ground.

    Stopping to Look at the Tiny Things

    “Follow their lead,” says Teacher Heidi, “If they are not interested in something don’t push it [or try to] ‘make them understand.’” Even when they are interested in something, don’t continue teaching them about it past their natural engagement. When you notice they’re losing interest, quickly finish your last thoughts on it and move on. Usually, they just need time to think about what they just learned. You’ll be amazed to hear them telling someone else all about what they learned when you thought your chat was just in one ear and out the other.

  5. Model curiosity and use “I wonder” statements. You don’t always have to know the answer to things, and it’s often better to have questions that lead to more questions. People, including children, will trust what you do know more readily if you sometimes don’t know something and are brave enough to admit it.  Both Teacher Amy and Teacher Heidi recommend using “I wonder” statements. For example, Teacher Amy says, “I wonder where that bird is flying to? I wonder what that squirrel is doing, digging in the ground? This is a great way to point out your observations, find out what they already know, and stoke their natural curiosity.”

    A teacher with young students look at microscopic things on a screen.

    Let Their Interests Guide You

  6. Don’t ask too many questions,” emphasizes Teacher Heidi. It’s exhausting for a child to be constantly thinking through the answers, and many people are afraid to answer questions posed by “an expert,” lest they get it wrong. If your outing feels like a test, they’re not going to enjoy it very much. To find out what they know, start with some easy questions to which you know they already know the answer and let them expand on their ideas. Open questions such as, “What do you think?” allow them to put together what they already know without the pressure of being right or wrong. When they do answer, reward them by truly listening to their answer and respond with a positive affirmation, no matter how outlandish their thought may seem to you. “Wow, that is a really interesting idea! I wonder …” is always better than filling them with facts at that moment. There will always be other opportunities to correct misunderstandings.
  7. When it’s appropriate, let them go off trail. Certainly, you want to be respectful of park rules and mindful to not degrade an area (no taking shortcuts on switch-backs, stay out of sensitive areas, don’t pick flowers in public spaces (except for invasives like daisies and European dandelions), pack out all of your litter (including tissues, eggshells, and fruit peels), and stay on trail in heavily used areas), but whenever you can Teacher Amy advises, “Let them explore and experience wild, un-manicured spaces where they can meander and have amazing discoveries and forge their own trails.”
    A group of children walk up a rocky stream

    Getting off trail doesn’t have to be destructive.

    In very remote areas, help them build forts, play games like hide and seek (with very specific boundaries), and allow for a little bit of “destructive” behavior such as pulling bark off a log or using ferns as decorative pieces or camouflage. Allow natural consequences to take shape; if it feels appropriate, discuss those consequences with them, but avoid making them feel guilty, and don’t stress yourself too much about their behavior. Many of the most ardent and peaceful nature lovers in the world (including me) squished slugs and destroyed ant nests as children.

  8. Let them take risks. As we’ve written before, calculated risk taking is very good for childhood
    A child sits high in an oak tree he climbed.

    Climbing trees is healthy risk taking.

    development. It helps build their bodies and their self-confidence, and teaches them invaluable lessons that can help keep them safe. So let them climb a tree, jump from boulder to boulder, or cross a slippery stream. The mishaps, bumps, bruises, and scrapes will become part of the adventure story.

  9. Take them out at dawn, dusk, or the middle of the night. Not only is there great beauty to be held at these times, many animals come out during the twilight or full dark hours. It’s very exciting to hide in the bushes and watch a raccoon scramble down a tree or a skunk crossing only a few feet in front of you as it leaves its burrow. Our senses are challenged and heightened in the dark. Consider playing variations on hide and seek in the dark, or simply lay on your backs, watching the stars and listening to the world around you.
  10. Bring nature to you. Teacher Heidi recommends gardening as “a quick and easy way to build connection” with nature. Teacher Amy adds, “Invite nature into your yard! Put up a bird feeder, birdhouse or birdbath, build a bug hotel, start a compost pile, get a bat box! These small actions can make a big impact by creating a connection with nature right outside your door.” Even if you live in an apartment, you can bring nature closer to you by keeping a houseplant, an aquarium, or a kitchen-counter herb garden.

    Child holds up a stick with tiny mushrooms on it

    Enjoy the journey with your kids, and keep it light.

  11. Keep your lessons light. Climate change, plastics in the ocean, invasive species, overpopulation, extinction of other species … the human-caused environmental issues are far too heavy a burden for young children, and without any concrete ways of making a positive change, this can be a very painful and frustrating experience for them. Generally speaking, avoid these lessons until they’re at least 8 years old. Obviously, they don’t live in a bubble and sometimes they will become aware of negative information before you’re ready. If they start the conversation with you, don’t dismiss their concerns, but answer their questions in as honest of terms as you can without making it sound scary.

Most importantly, remember to enjoy the journey as you head outside with your family to Play, Adventure, and Learn!